I have been watching myself in friendships lately. More precisely, I have been watching what they cost me. The awareness arrived like dawn: gradual, then sudden. In the space between conversations, I began to notice the exhaustion. How I left interactions feeling hollowed out. How I said yes when everything in me whispered no. How […]

Have you ever felt an instant irritation toward someone’s confidence? Not arrogance, just a natural ease? There’s always someone who speaks up in meetings without hesitation, sets boundaries without lengthy explanations, and takes up space as if they belong. And something inside you reacts. You might tell yourself they’re “too much” or “full of themselves.” […]

I never dreamed about marriage. After twelve years together, Zac and I had built a life we loved, complete with our rituals, shared jokes, and that quiet understanding that only comes from truly knowing someone. We’d weathered highs and lows, but underneath it all, we were happy, committed, and solid. So when people asked if […]

A personal reflection on breaking free from the approval trap and finding my own voice There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from living your entire life for someone else’s approval. I know it intimately, and only recently did I start to understand where it truly came from. I was watching a video called […]

My mother’s sisters. That’s the truth I rarely say aloud. They frustrate me in ways that go deeper than annoyance, taking up space I can’t quite name. I watch them disappear into their marriages. See how they shrink when their husbands speak, adjusting their clothes, their voices, even their laughter to fit whatever box they’ve […]

Do you have that friend who somehow hijacks your good news and turns it into their personal therapy session? The one who asks “How are you?” then launches into their own monologue before you can even open your mouth? Yeah. Me too. For years, I told myself I was just being a compassionate listener. What […]

If this is your first time reading my blog, my mother died on Christmas Day 2024. In early 2025 I went back to Montreal to take care of her estate and sell her house. I stayed in Montreal for close to three months. My blog posts are inspired by that time I stayed in Montreal. […]

There exists a unique kind of heartbreak that arrives when a friendship ends quietly, not with the dramatic flourish of a slammed door or the cathartic release of spoken truths, but with the gentle erosion of silence. No final conversation marks the boundary between what was and what is no longer. Instead, there is only […]

Have you ever walked away from a friend’s text feeling… heavier? Like something was quietly pulled from you that you can’t quite name? The Quiet Recognition: When Friendships Reveal Our Deepest Patterns There’s something profoundly unsettling about scrolling through your phone and feeling that small knot form in your stomach when a particular name appears. […]