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Why the Same Relationship Keeps Showing Up

There is a question that has followed me through much of my adult life. Why do I keep meeting different people and having the same experience? The faces change. The circumstances change. Sometimes years pass between one relationship and the next. Yet eventually I find myself standing in familiar territory. I feel unseen. I feel …

Roots & Revelations: A Stanley Park Giant Teaches Us About Foundation

Sometimes the universe places profound teachers directly in our path. During our recent walk through Stanley Park, we discovered one such teacher – a magnificent tree that had fallen across the walkway, offering lessons that reached far deeper than its compromised roots. The Sacred Moment of Falling The park ranger’s words carried weight beyond their …

At The Edge of Mother’s Deathbed

During my long walks, whether commuting to and from work or strolling along Vancouver’s seawall, I often memorized poems and lengthy passages. In October 2024, I chose “Invictus” by William Ernest Henley to be the poem I’d memorize as we were entering into the winter phase. Little did I know it would be the last …

Dignity & Self-Respect Are Cousins (And Why You Need Both)

What if the true turning point in healing is not about loving yourself more, but about respecting yourself more deeply? We often talk about boundaries, confidence, and self-care. But beneath all of these lies a quieter, more foundational quality that sustains everything else: dignity. Dignity is rarely discussed, yet it touches every part of our …

The Healing Power of Reclaiming Our Story: When Writing Becomes Medicine

There exists a profound distinction between writing to someone and writing about an experience with them. The former seeks to bridge a gap that may no longer exist. The latter seeks to heal a wound that very much does. What I discovered in my recent process of putting pen to paper was not communication. It …

I Received A Strange Email – Here’s my response

Message to my readers: The message above is an actual email I received on the morning of Sunday, July 20, 2025. The sender is someone I met her through Bumble BFF (a platform for meeting female friends) while I was in Montreal taking care of my late mother’s home. We had only known each other …

When A Friend Says “I Didn’t Feel Like Coming Out Today”

  The rain in Montréal was hitting hard that spring day. Not the gentle Vancouver drizzle I’m used to, but a curtain of water that soaked through your coat in seconds. I was sitting in a cute small café in Westmount, watching it streak down the windows, waiting for someone I considered a friend. It …

The Silent Thief: How Comparison Steals Our Joy

What do you do when your compliment collides with someone else’s scarcity mindset? That moment revealed something I had not fully understood before. In close relationships, opening my heart to another person does not always connect me solely to their true self. It also brings me face to face with their learned patterns, their constrained …

Waiting On Friendship: The Difference Between Love and Self-Abandonment

What if the people we love most are unknowingly teaching us that we’re not worth showing up for? It was my friend’s birthday. I invited her out to dinner, a small gesture of care, a desire to celebrate her. I chose the place, made the reservation, and arrived on time, as I tend to do. …