Message to my readers: The message above is an actual email I received on the morning of Sunday, July 20, 2025. The sender is someone I met her through Bumble BFF (a platform for meeting female friends) while I was in Montreal taking care of my late mother’s home. We had only known each other […]

I like to think I show up for myself. I like to think I show up for my friends and family, too. But lately, I’ve been asking myself a deeper question: Is that really true? Or has something else been guiding the way I show up – something unconscious, something old? The Blueprint We Inherit […]

  The rain in Montréal was hitting hard that spring day. Not the gentle Vancouver drizzle I’m used to, but a curtain of water that soaked through your coat in seconds. I was sitting in a cute small café in Westmount, watching it streak down the windows, waiting for someone I considered a friend. It […]

What do you do when your compliment collides with someone else’s scarcity mindset? That moment revealed something I had not fully understood before. In close relationships, opening my heart to another person does not always connect me solely to their true self. It also brings me face to face with their learned patterns, their constrained […]

What if the people we love most are unknowingly teaching us that we’re not worth showing up for? It was my friend’s birthday. I invited her out to dinner, a small gesture of care, a desire to celebrate her. I chose the place, made the reservation, and arrived on time, as I tend to do. […]

“The moment you notice a connection between events, you start to believe it’s all somehow cosmic,” my husband said once. “Like they’re happening for you.” His words stuck with me. They carried an unspoken criticism that maybe I assign too much meaning to ordinary events. That maybe I see divine purpose where there’s only coincidence. […]

I have been watching myself in friendships lately. More precisely, I have been watching what they cost me. The awareness arrived like dawn: gradual, then sudden. In the space between conversations, I began to notice the exhaustion. How I left interactions feeling hollowed out. How I said yes when everything in me whispered no. How […]

Have you ever felt an instant irritation toward someone’s confidence? Not arrogance, just a natural ease? There’s always someone who speaks up in meetings without hesitation, sets boundaries without lengthy explanations, and takes up space as if they belong. And something inside you reacts. You might tell yourself they’re “too much” or “full of themselves.” […]

I never dreamed about marriage. After twelve years together, Zac and I had built a life we loved, complete with our rituals, shared jokes, and that quiet understanding that only comes from truly knowing someone. We’d weathered highs and lows, but underneath it all, we were happy, committed, and solid. So when people asked if […]

A personal reflection on breaking free from the approval trap and finding my own voice There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from living your entire life for someone else’s approval. I know it intimately, and only recently did I start to understand where it truly came from. I was watching a video called […]